Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
- In 2014, I resolve to see Neil Patrick Harris in Hedwig — Done.
- To run a race, even if it’s really short — Done. I ran a 5K and a spring 10K and a fall 10K and I would like to start running more again.
- To go back to Paris and go to some place I’ve always wanted to go like Switzerland or Amsterdam or Bruges — Nope.
- To spend as much time outside as possible, even if it’s just walking around our beautiful lakes, and taking moments at places like this along the way just to take a breath. — Yep. I spent time outside on beaches and just walking around our local lakes and in the Pacific Northwest and it was all the best.
- I would also like to take to heart what Anne Lamott says about embracing as her “motto William Blake’s line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.” I would like to be better about enduring the beams of love. — I think I tried to be better at this, but I guess it’s probably a lifelong endeavor.
For 2015, I resolve to stop worrying.
Did anyone close to you become a parent?
My sister had a daughter and she is pretty much the cutest thing any of us have ever seen.
Did anyone close to you die?
People I love lost people they love, and my heart continues to be broken for them and I remain astounded by their strength and grace.
What places did you visit?
I kind of went bananas with the traveling this year … I think I felt so homebound for the end of last year and the first few weeks of this year that I just wanted to break free and be alive in as many places as I could … Seaside with Anna Beth in an impromptu decision to celebrate the end of cancer treatment where I got the diagnosis phone call, Nashville to visit my brother and friend, New Orleans for Jazz Fest and other various and sundry good times, Connecticut and New York to visit my sister and her family and for the Tony’s and Beautiful and Hedwig and Molly in Brooklyn and back for tick, tick… BOOM! with my dear Anne, Oregon for First Descents, Hilton Head, Minneapolis, and Alys Beach with the family, where I got to see S. and her family, which was super swell.
What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
A year with no chemotherapy and no news of others being diagnosed, learning of recurrences of friends and loved ones, and so forth.
What dates from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Traveling to the Midwest for the first time.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Yes, but moving on … January was rough, but most of the year was healthy and awesome.
What were the best things you bought?
Plane tickets and show tickets. Visiting loved ones and Broadway and live music made me very happy, as usual. [Same answer as last year.] Highlights in terms of music were Ani DiFranco at the beach and Josh Ritter and Shovels and Rope. And Jason Isbell and the Avetts at Jazz Fest and every time I saw my brother play.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Same answer as last year: The work being done by John Green and Hank Green to change the world by inspiring others to change the world and just being wonderfully funny and teaching people about all sorts of wonderful things and their delightful Tumblrs and the ways they discover to harness the power of the Internet and use it for this wide, explosive array of general goodness made them my heroes of the year again this year.
Where did most of your money go?
Travel, show tickets, the Tony Awards.
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
The first time I ran outside without a hat. The Tony Awards! Seeing Mike Birbiglia live for the first time and the opening night of the So You Think You Can Dance tour and when the hotel upgraded me to a giant presidential suite when they caught wind that it was my first race post-chemo. When Jacqueline Woodson won the National Book Award for Brown Girl Dreaming. When I found the perfect green wig for St. Patrick’s Day and wore it while walking all over town and then taking it off and just being bald and happy and in love with life. For the first half of the year, nothing excited me more than going to Oregon for First Descents. For the second half of the year, nothing excited me more than the baby due to be born at the beginning of 2015.
What songs will always remind you of 2014?
My favorite new musical discovery of 2014 was probably Lydia Loveless thanks to my friend Amy. I also really liked Ingrid Michaelson’s new album. I just like her in general. My favorite overall album this year was Strange Desire by Bleachers. I probably listened to Like a River Runs more times than any other song this year. I wish I had seen them on tour. I also really loved and was really proud of Benjy Davis’ self-titled album. He is basically part of the family, and we all embraced it; it’s just kind of a dream. We’ve all debated what our favorite track is, and I love them all, but I always come back to I’m Still Here. Or Six Feet. Or Here I Go Again. Other miscellaneous songs I loved in 2014 include Ride This Feeling by Kate Miller-Heidke and Breathing Underwater by Metric and How the Day Sounds by Greg Laswell and Consummation by Patrick Hawes, which I first heard on Rectify and love very much, and Taking You With Me by Daniel Tashian & Mindy Smith and Back Before We Were Brittle by Say Hi (and very beautiful cover by Priscilla Ahn). And, last but not least, A Change Is Gonna Come by Aretha Franklin. Forever and ever, amen.
What do you wish you’d done more of?
What do you wish you’d done less of?
How did you spend Christmas?
The usual routine, which I like a lot: Mass, delicious lunch prepared by mom, family, lounging. I also played soccer in the front yard with my nephew and brothers and it was so fun and I will never forget it.
What was your favorite TV program?
- Had the most fun watching and talking about with friends: Playing House (and Best Friends Forever). Honestly, Playing House just made me so extremely happy on so many levels. It really did my heart good.
- Favorite new show: Jane the Virgin
- Shows that were my favorite hilarious/awkward combination: Getting On and The Comeback
- The shows that moved me the most: Transparent and Rectify
What was the best book you read?
- Young adult fiction: Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan, The Sky Is Everywhere and I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson, Winger by Andrew Smith, and Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson.
- Grown up fiction: All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
What did you want and get?
I wanted to get through First Descents without dying on a river, and I did.
What did you want and not get?
I can’t really think of anything…overall it was a really good year.
What were your favorite films of this year?
Enough Said, X-Men: First Class, Guardians of the Galaxy, Boyhood. No movie really changed my life this year. I’m still processing Boyhood and I just didn’t see that many movies. I was also very fond of The Fault in Our Stars if not for the movie for itself than for the extreme shock and awe experienced when seeing it.
What did you do on your birthday?
My actual birthday was a big deadline at work, so I don’t think I did much of anything. But my friends threw me a wonderful party a week later, and I will never forget it. I felt so surrounded with love and so lucky to have my tribe.
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
I don’t know. A cure for cancer? Forever.
What kept you sane?
Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
What political issue stirred you the most?
At year’s end, gay marriage is legal in 35 states + DC. That is pretty stirring.
Whom did you miss?
My siblings, nephews, niece, and friends & their children who live far away.
Who were the best people you met?
My new crazy, ridiculous, brave, awesome First Descents family.
Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
There’s a river of love that runs through all time
There’s a river of grief that flows through our lives
It starts with a heart that’s broken in two
By the thief of belief in anything that’s true
But there’s a river of love that flows through all time
And one day we will die, and our ashes will fly
From the aeroplane over the sea,
But for now, we are young,
let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see
–Neutral Milk Hotel
I get lost, so far out,
I get back to it somehow.
They say time is all it takes,
Well, I’m taking my time now.
In the evening, when sun is going down,
I’m still breathing, I’m still six feet over ground.
Praise the water under bridges, praise the time they say will heal.